The one looking through your eyes is giving you your world.
There's a version of you that knows what's happening before you've found the words for it.
You've felt it — the thing in your chest in certain conversations, the moment before sleep when the day reorganises itself without permission, the pattern you can see clearly and still find yourself inside.
That knowing is already there.
I'm Justin. This work is about learning to listen to it.
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The Work
BodyMind Maturation
Notice what's happening as you read this. Not the words. What the words are landing on. Something in you that's already paying attention before you decided to pay attention.
That's the territory of this work.
Most of us live at a slight distance from ourselves. Close enough to function, far enough to stay safe. The body is still there, still communicating — through tension, through tiredness, through the thing that tightens in your chest in certain conversations. We've just stopped listening.
Some of what you're carrying, you don't know you're carrying. Not because you haven't looked — but because it's been the water you've been swimming in long enough that it stopped feeling like water. It just feels like the way things are.
That's where this work begins. With what you're carrying — and with what's been generating it.
Most people are living inside a version of themselves they built for survival, or inherited from someone else. The work is leaning in to see that version clearly — to hold it with enough distance that it becomes visible as a pattern, not as who you are.
When you can see it — even once, even briefly — you're no longer completely inside it.
Maturation isn't a process you complete, it's a constant choosing. Choosing to bring the deeper layers into distinction. Every time you step onto new ground, your willingness to look calls the next layer into existence. This is what it means to mature.
The container
The container is a committed space — biweekly Zoom sessions with a WhatsApp check-in on the weeks in between, held inside a 3 or 6-month commitment.
My commitment inside it is equal to yours. I hold you in your struggle, not around it. I live by the same principles I'm asking you to work with. That's not a technique — it's the only way this work is honest.
What you discover inside a container is often something you didn't expect: that you can actually hold what you've been running from. Not because you've become stronger or more capable, but because you've stopped hiding from it — from yourself, and from someone else. When nothing is being judged or fixed, honesty does something that trying harder never could.
Responsibility becomes the natural ground of it. Not something imposed, but something that emerges when you're genuinely seen.
The outgrowing
The journey through maturation moves in phases. A blindspot is revealed and something shifts — there's a spaciousness, a lightness, a sense that something new is possible. That feeling is real, and it's also just the beginning.
What comes next is the part nobody shares with you. The pattern you're outgrowing grips harder than ever. It shows up in every thought, every interaction, every action — in everything you feel you've learnt or moved through, suddenly seeming gone, as if you're starting again.
You're not starting again. This is the outgrowing.
A friend taught me something years ago that I return to every time I'm in it: whatever is moving out first shows itself fully before it leaves. Blame, shame, guilt, judgment — any of these will keep you a victim of what is moving through you. You cannot grow from that position. Take ownership of what is happening, without letting those attachments land. This is what keeps you in the work rather than lost in the story.
The invitation is to keep going.
Who this is for
Some people arrive here knowing something has to change. Others aren't sure what brought them — only that something did.
You've likely done the work. And certain things shifted. And certain things returned. The same pattern, different clothes. Not because something is wrong with you. Some things aren't broken. There is something calling to be seen more clearly than it has been.
That pull toward something you can't quite name from where you are now — that is already the work beginning.
What are you experiencing right now?
About
Justin Botes
BodyMind Maturation Coach. Based in South Africa, working with clients worldwide.
For most of my adult life I moved between two ways of being. Collapse meant going quiet in the places that mattered, waiting for something to shift before I tried again. Fixing meant researching, attempting, working harder at whatever wasn't working. What I eventually saw was that these two weren't opposites, they were the same loop. When you try to fix collapse, you're still in it. When you notice you're fixing and collapse about that, you're still in it. It's a self-referential problem that can't be solved from inside the level it was created. The only movement available is in the awareness that can hold it without becoming it.
That was the territory I'd been trying to find my way through before I came across Nicky Clinch and BodyMind Maturation. Something in me recognised it immediately. Not as new information, but as a returning.
When I was around three years old, I noticed that the words being spoken in a room weren't matching what the bodies in that room were communicating. That gap, between what was said and what was felt, became something I was simultaneously drawn to and wary of for the rest of my life. I learned, as most children do, which parts of myself were welcome in any given room, and became very good at showing only those.
It takes a long time to change your relationship to those patterns. Not to remove them — they don't just leave — but to stop being so completely run by them. It takes longer still to feel what's underneath.
My own maturation has moved in small, sometimes specific things. Waking up fifteen minutes earlier and finding I'd given myself something. A conversation I'd been quietly arranging to avoid for years, finally had. A tight, low-level pressure around time that used to sit in my chest, and one day I noticed it beginning to lift. Nothing dramatic. Just more room.
I trained in BodyMind Maturation under Nicky Clinch, an ontological approach to coaching that works at the level of being, not behaviour. I’m one of very few men trained in this work.
Most men don’t come to this kind of work. I understand that pull — I felt it too. When I first came to it, I couldn’t hide. And for the first time, I didn’t have to. The armour came off before I could raise it again. I was terrified. I was also relieved in a way I hadn’t expected.
I stay in this work because going back is not an option. You won’t allow yourself to be lulled into sleep by story. Responsibility becomes the privilege rather than effort and work.
I live and work in South Africa, a country that holds a great deal of grief in its body. In the ground, between people, in words that were never said and things that were never named across generations. What I bring is not neutrality. It's a willingness to keep looking honestly, to sit with discomfort, and to not pretend.
What people say
"Justin has an incredible ability to listen with his entire being and hold space, while reading signs in my physical body and feed them back to me. I have had coaching before, but never to this depth and level of awareness."
H.M.
"I always leave the call feeling changed, uplifted, and more in tune with myself."
Kgomotso
"None of the counselling I had received before had truly addressed my blockages. I am a different person to the one I was before the sessions. I will remember my time with Justin as a turning point."
Scott
"Right from the first session I could feel a shift in some areas of my life. He is warm and gentle and empathetic and never judgemental."
Libie
The Offers
Ways to work together
There are a few ways to work together, depending on where you are and what you're ready for. Sessions are online via Zoom, open to clients worldwide. Pricing shown in South African rand for local clients, US dollars for international.
A conversation
Complimentary
Twenty to thirty minutes to feel whether this work and this container are right for where you are.
Single session
R2,000$200
A 60-minute session. For those new to the work who feel a pull but aren't yet ready for a container, and for those already in the work who need a space to be with something that's present — between containers, or when something needs attention.
An opening session, six biweekly sessions, and a closing session — eight sessions across three months. WhatsApp support on the weeks between sessions, Monday to Friday.
An opening session, twelve biweekly sessions, and a closing session — fourteen sessions across six months. WhatsApp support on the weeks between sessions, Monday to Friday.
Everything begins with a conversation. When you're ready, get in touch.
Get in Touch
What is present for you right now?
Send me a message. I'll be in touch to arrange a conversation.
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Last updated: May 2026
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Last updated: May 2026
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About the services
Justin Botes offers BodyMind Maturation coaching — a 1:1 coaching practice rooted in ontological inquiry and embodied awareness, trained under Nicky Clinch. Services include complimentary discovery conversations, single sessions, and 3-month and 6-month containers. All sessions are delivered online via Zoom and are available to clients worldwide.
Important: coaching is not therapy
BodyMind Maturation coaching is not a substitute for therapy, medical treatment, or clinical mental health care. Justin Botes is a coach, not a psychologist, therapist, or medical professional. Coaching sessions are not clinical interventions and should not be treated as such.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or require clinical support, please contact a qualified mental health professional or your local emergency services.
By engaging these services, you confirm that you understand and accept the distinction between coaching and clinical care.
Booking and payment
Discovery conversations are complimentary and carry no obligation to proceed. Paid sessions and containers are confirmed upon receipt of payment. Payment terms and methods are communicated at the time of booking.
Pricing is shown in South African rand (ZAR) for South African clients and US dollars (USD) for international clients, as displayed at the time of booking. Clients are responsible for any currency conversion costs charged by their bank or payment provider.
Cancellation, rescheduling, and refunds
Cooling-off period (all online bookings)
Where you book or sign electronically, you may cancel within seven (7) calendar days of booking or signing, provided the work has not yet been fully performed. Where a booking results from direct marketing, you may additionally cancel within five (5) business days under the Consumer Protection Act — whichever period is longer applies. Cancellation within the cooling-off period entitles you to a full refund, less a fair charge for any sessions already delivered. Email justin@justinbotes.com to cancel.
Single sessions
Cancel with less than 24 hours' notice, or no-show — no refund.
Cancel with more than 24 hours' notice — refund net of any payment processing fees already incurred (Paystack, Wise, bank transfer, or equivalent).
Coach cancels — reschedule or full refund, your choice.
Coaching containers (3-month and 6-month programs)
Containers may be paid in full upfront or at the monthly rate. All funds received are held in a dedicated holding account and transferred to the operating account only as sessions are delivered, ensuring funds remain available for a refund at any point.
Under section 14 of the Consumer Protection Act, consumer clients have a non-waivable right to cancel a fixed-term agreement at any time by giving twenty (20) business days' written notice. On cancellation after the cooling-off period:
Sessions already delivered are re-rated at the full single session rate (regardless of the container discount — the discount was given for the full commitment).
Any remaining balance is refunded within 14 days, net of payment processing fees already incurred.
Cancellation requests must be sent in writing to justin@justinbotes.com.
If a genuine life event (bereavement, serious illness, relocation) makes continuing impossible, contact the coach directly — a pause is often the better answer.
Full terms are set out in the Coaching Agreement signed at the start of the engagement.
Disputes
In the event of a dispute, the coach will first attempt to resolve the matter directly with the client. If a resolution cannot be reached within 30 days, both parties agree to attempt mediation before pursuing any other remedy. This business operates in compliance with the Consumer Protection Act and POPIA.
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